| — | W.E.B. Du Bois in “The Damnation of Women” (an essay)
W.E.B. Dubois is preaching in this excerpt. It's important that black men feel the duty and responsibility to protect the welfare of black women in America. We live in a society where black women degrade themselves to "succeed." When young girls aspire to be hip-hop wives, basketball wives, video vixens and XXL Models -- where did we lose our sense of respect? Our society praises "hoes" and shuns the virgins. Sex is just a pastime and no longer the intimate reality of "making love." We answer to "bitch" and struggle with accepting our beautiful shade of skin. We bleach our skin and oppress our naturally perfect curls with chemicals. We aren't sisters. We are competitors. This division from self needs to stop. Black men need to realize that the nature of a black woman is deteriorating from it's once powerful and proud state. Brothers, please love, respect, uplift and appreciate our black women!
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All i can do is shake my head. this self hate among the black race is appalling. we spend more time degrading, hating, and loathing one another one another, instead of trying to build each other up. I personally think B.E.T. has some blame on this but its parents fault for allowing the media to raise their children. if parents could instill self love, into their children then maybe they would not spend their time idolizing what they see on TV. i understand this notion of "internal oppression" stems from time of slavery but this cycle has seriously got to stop.
ReplyDeletei agree with you that more men in this day and age need to respect and protect the respect of black women more in this day and age. But black women also have to take a good portion of the responsibility for not being treated with respect. When you have shows such as basketball wives and real housewives of atl and the black women on there are talking down to each other and call each other how their names how can you expect a man educated or not to continue such behavior. Business that used to be kept inside of the four walls of your home is not being made public news. Now not to put all the blame on the ladies because as I said men, black men need to respect and also help to protect that respect, but it is only the ignorant black man that does not recognize the beauty in a black woman and carries on in a manner that would disrespect her. But ultimately it does begin with the woman herself carrying herself in a manner that does and will not warrant disrespect.
ReplyDeleteI personally think a lot of black women live to the standards that black men put out. If they see black men give attention to a certain type of woman, they will try their hardest to emulate that source of attention.
ReplyDeleteThe problem lies in the fact that the only vehicle that continuously displays the interaction between black men and black women is through technology...when all one see's on T.V. or in music videos is black men talking about how they need "long haired thick red bones"...somewhere a little black girl is like, "in order for me to get guys I need some long hair and a curvaceous shape." Or if Petey Pablo has a whole song dedicated to women of color who are "Freek-a-leeks"...that same black girl is gonna be like "is that what I have to do make a guy like me. I mean these girls do have a WHOLE song about being a freak." and then next thing you know she'll get her tongue pierced...["earring in her tongue and she knows what to do with it"]
Point of the matter...as much we equally share the duty to preserve the status of our black women. Black men need to realize how powerful their influence is on black women. If black men started giving "real" black women attention, loving women of all figures, all hair textures, skin colors and points of ambition -- we would prevent the death of the black woman.
that is one of the biggest misconceptions in the black community now and ill break it down really simple... guys we want our woman to look good in our presence and when shes not in our presence. But in all reality we prefer the natural look, all that other stuff the hair the nails make up and what not its cool, but at the end of the day we DONT care. heres the simplicity of it, a black female can go outside in a pair of sweats sneakers and a jacket a still get the same attention from dudes. tell me when was the last time you heard a black male or a male in general say he couldnt find a good black woman... in my opinion i think black women tend to care more and over think that men really want that... classic line, freak in the sheets, WOMAN IN THE STREETS... and ill end with this agree with the first comments of chi chi, if parents talk it to there kids more often and stopped allowing the media to raise their children then we wouldnt have this... and single parent home whether just the mother or just the father is no excuse because single parent household is not something that just popped up in the 90's
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